Like Mother, Like Daughter!

No other relationship is more commonly known for having its ups and downs than the one between a mother and daughter. Physically I inherited my mother's light brown silky hair, deep brown eyes and curves!
So now you understand why am I so Pretty?? :)
I may not always spell out but she means a lot to me. I must have often denied but the truth is that I can never ever survive without her!
But sometimes I think she is just Crazy!
For Example : When we go to a party, she is having a great time talking to her friends and people she never met before! But in the car on our way back home she tells me how disgusting those people were and how she didn't like the party!
As I tell her Everything!
OKAY! Not EVERYTHING! Something!
She always find a way to her favorite point i.e My bloody Weight!
She feels I am overweight! But she doesn't understand I am just HEALTHY!! ;)
Somedays are overwhelming!
We've had lot of arguments. Somehow I understood the fact that she didn't mean to hurt me. No mother would purposely hurt their child. The person who loves you, fights with you the most!
This transformed my relationship with her. I feel her immense love whenever she shouts on me. I just smile!
I smile because I am her Daughter!
I laugh because there is nothing she can do about it!
LOL!
These days, I get butterflies in stomach, If I don't get time to gossip!
A Man can play Cricket with his friend every week and not knowing he's getting Divorced!
Can you imagine that happening with a woman??
LOL NO!
I've had the Best conversation of my life with my mommy! Also, the worst!
I talk to her in a much franker way than daughters did a generation ago!
No Doubt! ROLES SWITCH!, Whether it's due to age, health, finances or culture!
Daughters are better equipped to take care of mommy's!

Well! Everyone has different stages in their lives with their mommy's!
Here's mine,
Stages with Ages!
Starting with :
Age 7-12
I use to wear her Heels/sandals and roll up her Dupatta ( a long scarf) as a Saree! Wanting to be just like her!
Age 13-15
She suddenly became the most Annoying person on Earth! This was the time when I preferred to just do the opposite of what she would say!
She use to try to keep a track of my whereabouts. I hated her!
I remember what she use to say, If you have never been hated by your child, you've never been a Parent!
Age 16
Stop giving me your advice! Stop asking about my Day! I need Space!
Age 17
Why can't you be cool like sammy's mom???


Age 18
I have been eating Junk food for every meal! I miss your cooking mom!
Age 19
Where are you always busy mom?? :/
Sammy and her mom are so bloody boring!
Age 20-23
Hey Mom! Do you have time for a Two-hour conversation about Nothing??
After 23 till forever
I hope I'm just like you when I'm old!
You're the best mommy!

Now, when people tell me I am just like my mother, I take it as a compliment that I hope I will be able to continue to live upto!

P.S- Whenever she nags me now for whatever reason, I just smile and say Like Mother , Like Daughter!

Celebrating Life : Marriage is no option before 27.

Many people marry earlier, some later and i guess next generation will not marry at all!
I have been noticing more and more people getting engaged under the age of 23. I have seen my female friends/cousins getting married at this subtle age.
I agree life after graduation is hard-hearted. So why not just skip it and get married.Right?
NO!
People don't understand. Beginnings are always wonderful!
Marriage! Hopefully you'll only do it once.
So wait! Make a Life first! Live a Life!
One of my female friend has a crazy reason to get marry at this age. Do you really wanna know the reason?
PARENTS!
It would be difficult for me to comment on parenting styles. Recently, I read an article on ParentHood!
And then a series of questions with the same word hit me-
Are there Obsessed parents? Competitive parents? Cool parents? or Regular parents?
Obsessed means keeping a 24/7 watch on the kids,
Cool breed is the one that love to parade their kids in funky outfits.
And then there is competitive breed who are always on a watch as to what other kids are doing and then getting their kids to do the same.
Finally, there are regular breed where parents try hard to raise their kids with caution and giving them their own little space!

OKAY! WHATEVER!

But when a girl grows up! Most importantly, she needs TRUST from her parents! She wants her parents to support her!
Why is she restricted to go out on a vacation with her friends?
Why is she restricted for a night out?
I agree Delhi is no more Safe! They care for their girl!
But then,
Why is she restricted for a night stay on a trustful friend's place?
Why does some parents give nasty look when they get to know that a girl has male friends?
What century are we all living in??
Is it really 21st??

Girls are told, wherever they want to go, Go with your husband!
OH REALLY??
because girls are a responsibility! Aren't they??

That is why, my bloody friend is getting married! And other girls too :/
It's not that I am against Marriage. But there has to be a right time for it. Stand up for yourself and get mature first!
Because you are not just marrying your partner, you're marrying his family too.

We must have disappointed our parents Long before 23!
SO GIRLS OUT THERE!
Lets do it again! For our right and for our good!

Well! All I really wanna do is spend my life travelling the world, reading books that take my breath away, drinking all kinds of tea and occasionally write something!
I mean is that too much to ask for?? :D
Here is a list one should do before getting married!
It's not that one cannot do it after marriage but there is something especially liberating and overwhelming doing it beforehand :

1. Have a Attitude of Gratitude in life! Feel it and Live it!

2. Finish your studies. Get a master's degree. Achieve what others may say is impossible for you.

3.Plant a Tree and it will grow old with you. We did nothing to be on this earth. Let's do it! It feels good :)

4.Travel with your sister or closest female friend. Get lost in the city where you don't speak the language!

5.Move out of your parent's house. Live alone. Slash with roommates. Live your own way. See how messy you are! Learn to be organised. Learn how to pay bills, manage your money and live responsibly!

6.Learn how to cook. Cooking is like LOVE! It's adventurous. (if you know what i mean) ;)

7.Learn a language and visit that country!

8. If you are earning well, sponsor a child's education.

9. Go on a family vacation and see how funny your parents could be when they are stress free.

10. Practice giving! Giving is more rewarding than receiving.

11. Buy a Ridiculously expensive item of clothing or cosmetic, and gift it to your closest friend or a friend who is sad for some bloody reason!

12. Spend time with your grandparents! And when you understand their story, you'll love them even more :)

13.Do not Diet! Even if you think you are Fat. Its just the thought! You are Perfect :) Eat whatever you want to :)

14. Walk away from the drama, move forward in Life. Let go off a friendship. Not all friendships are meant to last forever!

15. Stop being judgemental. It takes a long time to learn how not to judge yourself through someone else's eyes.But once you do, the world is far brighter place to live!

16. Terrace lovers! Spend time on the terrace alone, have a drink! And love your life!

17. Take more pictures! They are great memories!

18. Make vow of silence. Some questions can only be answered in silence!

19. Don't worry about the things you can't change! And Accept people as they are!

20. Go on a long drive with your closest friend in lowers! Eat an ice cream and talk some bullshit sentimental stuff! :P

21.Learn from movies.Believe in Magic! Do what fears you?? Sky Diving?? Ohh Yeahh! I'd love to!

22. Make a list of things that makes you Happy! Keep that list with you always in your bag/wallet! When you feel upset, Do one of those! Try it! You are gonna miss me! :P And Stay Happy!

23. Write Thankyou notes! Some people feel shy but i don't understand what is there to shy about? Always Thank for what you receive!

24. Watch movies alone or have a lalala time being home alone! :)

25. Go on a Blind Date. A blind date may make a great story to tell friends or an experience! Or may be even a great Love!

26.Focus on Happiness. Being Happy is more important than being Rich.

27. Be good. Do good! When you do good, you get good! Be Loyal and get married!

And say,

Alright Life! I'm Ready! Bring it on! :)

Brother For Sale !!

He is a Man with all the answers. The most annoying person in the world I have ever met. The problem with him is he is so Bloody Mean. Total Stupid emotionally and financially draining on all the family members. Listens up songs of YO YO Honey Singh even in the Toilet and that too so loud that he can wake up the dead.
But WAIT!
You can learn a lot from him. He is a Superb psychological manipulator!
One day I asked him generally, How do you manipulate things? How are you so good at it? 
And look what I found!
A brief of how he controls :
> Positive Topping Up : includes praise/compliments, sympathy ( crocodile tears).
> Negative Topping Up : includes swearing, emotional blackmail, yelling or the great silent treatment.
RULE NUMBER 1 : Lying or Lying by omission.

When we were in school, we were taught to be truthful! Just say it whatever the truth is and everything will be okay! Then Why does every husband on earth says that her wife's dress doesn't make her look FAT!?
He Lies with so much confidence that creates self doubts that I would think for a minute  REALLY?? or he would lie with half the truth so that no one can prove him completely wrong.

RULE NUMBER 2 : Denial or Minimized Denial.

He will deny if anything wrong has been done by him even by mistake. He refuses to admit completely.
If he had said something harmful or something that should not be said, he knows how to cover up!
Well, That was not a taunt, It was only a JOKE! Why don't you people understand?? :-/

RULE NUMBER 3 : Be Inattentive.

Do not pay attention to the other person if you are losing the game. He doesn't listens to anything. And will start singing.. Whaaaaattt?? I can'tttt Hearrrrr youuuuu!??!! You're talking to yourself!

RULE NUMBER 4 : Change the Flow. Blame the Other.

Do not give straight answers to the straight questions. Find out something to blame the other person for anything. He has always applied this rule on me!
And I'm not AKON. You can't put the blame on me! :D
But he would put the other person into the anxious mode by taunting the other person about their personal issues which has no connection to the current situation and warning them that either Shut Up or your issues could go public!

RULE NUMBER 5 : Create Confusion.

He'll play the Dumb game. Start pretending as if you don''t know what the other person is talking about? And give stupid expressions like- What? What are you saying? REALLY?? :-/
This has always confused me! Whatever :-/

RULE NUMBER 6 : Guilt tripping.

Put the other person into the guilt mode by talking about some of the embarrassing moments of the past.

RULE NUMBER 7 : Anger.

If nothing goes into place, wishes not fulfilled, Get angry and leave the place!

Playing the victim role (poor me) : I am such a Beautiful person at Heart that I cannot stand to see anyone suffering!
That's why whenever he makes his face into an innocent one , I call it a puppy face, He needs Money!
And its my time to RULE on him!

Okayyyy! SO NOW is the TIME!
He's is sleeping in his room. I am gonna tie him tight and take him out to the road and see if someone will buy him.
LOOK!
He is not that expensive!  I have an amazing offer!
You can buy him on approved Credit! You can pay me next year!

He is not that Bad! He can help you in some of your work!
He has some technical wires in his mind! He can repair cell phones!Laptops!
YESSS! He can really do that!
Awwwwwmyyyyygodddd!! He repaired my cell phone once when it was on his death stage!And that too FOR FREE!
LOOK! He is not that expensive!
He can repair your stuffs!
He can boil eggs for you!
He can make omelette (if you can just cut the onions)!
He can work as a delivery boy and can get you YUMMY Chicken Rolls from the market!
He can load your favorite music to your pen drives!
He can help you clean your room,(if forced).
He can carry your shopping bags!(if you buy him a PIZZA).
He can be Super Protective sometimes without even letting you know!
He is a built-in-therapist, even if he doesn't know what to say!
We have a tons of inside family jokes which make us laugh to death! :D :D
 Whenever I am bored.. I Drive him nuts! And its so much FUN!
And I have just Realised!
No Matter What! I love him and he loves me too!!
BROTHER NOT FOR SALE! He is Priceless! :) :*